Posted by: spiritteacher | June 12, 2017

VALIDATE YOURSELF

“Be comforted, and feel God watching over you in love and perfect confidence in what He sees. … it is impossible the confidence of God should be misplaced.” A Course In Miracles

“My true validation comes from God.”

We cannot allow ourselves to be defined by other people’s opinions. Self confidence is seeing other’s opinions of us without judgment or attachment and being able to say to ourselves calmly and kindly, without emotional investment, “Well, that’s their opinion. And the opinions of others are none of my business.” This is done with a calm and quiet mind and a compassionate heart.

Very few people in this world are not affected by the judgments of others.  Almost everyone feels they need to be validated by an outside source. When they’re not validated they feel bad about themselves and when they are they feel good about themselves. The problem with that is that other people’s opinions are about them and not us at all. Each one of us brings judgments and perceptions from our own past experiences which color our way of seeing.  Our judgments can even change from moment to moment depending upon our mood, our level of restfulness, our own sense of value or lack thereof and a myriad of other conditions.  And some will judge us one way and others the opposite.

In this sense it’s clear that counting on someone else’s judgment as a way to define us is to ride a crazy roller coaster that is being controlled by someone outside of us who has their own lessons and issues. This is true whether we’re talking about a job interview, a workplace situation or a personal relationship. To be truly happy we have to get off that roller coaster and let God be our Guide and our Holy Validator.  That is true validation and it comes from an Inside Source.


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