Posted by: spiritteacher | October 14, 2009


A mother hadn’t seen her daughter in more than twenty-five years, except for a few short moments in time. Over the years, the daughter knew where the mother was, but the mother didn’t know where the daughter was. The daughter didn’t stay still. The mother searched every way she knew over those years and thought of her daughter every day. What caused the estrangement? Who knows? Who cares? All that matters is the mother’s heart was filled with longing, love and forgiveness. She wanted her daughter back in her life where she belonged.

Then one day she found a place on the world wide web. With her daughter’s name, date of birth, social security number and fifty dollars, suddenly there she was. Her child, now a woman of thirty-eight, lived in Minneapolis. Not that far from Milwaukee. Not that far at all.

The mother wrote a loving letter to her daughter not knowing if she would respond. She sent her daughter her phone number and e-mail address and one day she opened her e-mail and her heart leapt with gladness. There was her daughter’s name with a message. With trepidation the mother opened the message and the mother wept tears of joy at the loving response. “I’m happy now.” The daughter told her mother. “I would love to see you.” And the mother cried for that was all she wanted.

This mother and daughter’s experience is felt by us all in some form. It needn’t be so dramatic, nor does it need to encompass 25 years of time. Every time we don’t feel loving toward someone, every time we let our anger lead us and whenever we hold judgments against our loved ones, we are estranged for that moment, that day. Every time we forget to forgive and we feel the need to be right instead of loving, we are estranged.

Estrangement is fear and anger from something in the past that wasn’t forgiven. It builds a wall one brick slapped with mortar upon another until the wall is higher than the two who built it. And time is sometimes a great divider instead of the healer it is meant to be because it can magnify and distort the past. The only way to lower the wall is to let it go. Forgive the past. The past years or the past moment. In God’s timelessness there is no difference. Then one day the desire to heal the past and scale the wall becomes greater than the fear that built it and the bricks begin to crumble into red dust and a powerful wind fueled by love blows the dust away. And all that’s left are two beings reaching out in love. Reaching and remembering what matters. Love matters. Forgiveness heals. And therein lay the miracles which are the ingredients for a Holy relationship.

May you walk in peace today knowing you are blessed and a blessing in the world.


  1. Hi Sharie,
    What an important thing to right about. So many people are separated from family members over something that happened long ago; this is a beautiful story. I think we all long to forgive and be forgiven, to hold our loved ones in our arms again. Thank you!

  2. Hello Dear. This is the actual experience of a very close friend of mine. A powerful story that she was willing to share. I thank her and you for seeing the value in her experience for others. Love, Sharie

  3. Hi Sharie,

    I received The Gorgeous Blogger Award today, and would hereby like to present the GBA to you, one of the writers who most inpires me on the Internet. You are not only a gorgeous blogger, you are an amazing woman! Please come by my blog to copy the award, so you can post it here and let everyone know you’re A GB.


  4. Thank you, Sweetheart. I don’t know what a Gorgeous Blogger Award is, but it sounds like a loving gift. I’ll be right there to accept it. Love you, Sharie

  5. It’s for the loving spirits who are making a difference in the world through their writing. Every time you post, you spread love throughout the world. I’d say that’s making a difference!

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